Kids are resilient, these three are resilient, I know they are, they’ll be fine, we’ll all be fine. (I’m fine, this is fine, everything is fine.) They’ve been troopers. They had more questions than tears (in fact, there were none) when we told them they couldn’t play with their friends, go to school, do their regular activities. Still, I worry about their lost childhood. (Too much? Too dramatic?) Because they’re only little for so long, we only have them for 18 years, they’re only little little for much less than that. Even the loss of one summer (three months of school, one dance recital, one session of swim lessons, one season of baseball, countless birthday parties, one family vacation, all the things) feels like a lot.
And they’ve been great but it’s still hard. It’s hard because we’re all home together and even on the days when things are pretty good, it’s hard. It’s hard because just a few days ago I realized that Caden and Brooklyn have actual real-live email accounts for school to check and let’s all please remember that they’re SIX right now so that falls on me. (Hi, I basically ignore them.) It’s hard because we can’t go anywhere we usually go for fun. It’s hard because I recognize the privilege in my complaints and how can I even be talking when we have a backyard and the time and ability to homeschool and enough money for food and toys and ice cream just because. It’s hard because we’re all here together and have been here all together for so long and I saw a post on Facebook the other day that said the way our kids talk to each other is a reflection of how we speak to them and if that’s true then we’re doomed, all doomed, because there are days where I don’t think we can all speak any words around here without crying and/or yelling and so apparently they’re all going to grow up to be serial killers instead of kind human beings and I’m sorry, society, but I tried.
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We usually go on a bike ride in the afternoon. Usually the boys take their scooters and Brooklyn takes her hand-me-down bike from a neighbor and sometimes it hard for me to keep up. Sometimes it’s like pulling teeth to get everyone to go but they all enjoy it in the end.
They’re (mostly) diligent with their schoolwork in the morning. I make sure we’re done by lunchtime. Nolan is basically another Kindergartener right now and sits right along with Caden and Brooklyn, counting by 10s and segmenting words and yelling out answers to their teacher’s questions. It will be interesting to see him go to Kindergarten in two years when he has a third of the curriculum under his belt. Heck, it will be interesting to see him go back to preschool in the fall (back, back, please go back) after sitting through Kindergarten material for the last few months,
“Mommy,” Brooklyn said the other day, “In the fall, when we’re first graders, the sickness could still be here.”
“Yes,” I said. “We might still be doing school kind of like this in the fall.”
(You shouldn’t be here. I shouldn’t be here. We shouldn’t be here.)
She scampered off after that revelation. I didn’t tell her yet, I won’t until there’s certainty, but I’ve been mentally preparing for school in the fall to look different than usual, different even than what we’re doing now, though I don’t know what that looks like yet. Every other day? Every other week? Half days? Still distance learning some days, some weeks, every day? I’ve been researching iPads to replace their too-slow tablets as a precaution, been mentally preparing for the rest of 2020 to look nothing like what we ever would have thought.